Monday, April 23, 2012

Do things really happen for a reason?

I had no intention on writing tonight until I saw this image on a friend's page on Facebook and all sorts of thoughts went through my mind.
All my life, I've heard people say exactly what it says up above.. that everything happens for a reason.  But is this really true?  I don't think it is.  The comment I wrote on my friend's Facebook page was:  "I don't think everything happens for a reason.  Sometimes, life just sucks.  We somehow find a hidden meaning in it but there wasn't a 'reason' for it.  What is the reason for my having MS?  NONE.  Shit happens and I no longer analyze it.. and life is more peaceful this way.☺"  I wonder if people feel there is a meaning in everything that happens in life is based on religious beliefs, and this is where my thoughts are leaning.

How can anyone say they know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that everything happens for a reason?  Is there some sort of scientific evidence to prove this point?  Yes, we cut our finger and we bleed.  It will happen as a direct result of the injury but that is not what is being said in the image.  Why do I have MS?  Why do many of you have MS?  Why did my mom have breast cancer and almost lose her life to it?  Why does my Jinger have hyperthyroidism?  There is no reason for these things except that sometimes, it's the luck of the draw.  It happens.  To try to find some sort of meaning for these things would be futile because reason does not exist for them.  I have MS, most likely, because of the part of the world in which I live and the same goes for my mom having breast cancer, although her taking birth control pills for as long as she took them did not make matters any better.
I often reflect on my life and how I have become a kinder, confident, more tolerant, more loving woman, yet at the same time angrier, impatient and somewhat more demanding since my MS diagnosis 21 years ago.  But to be fair, I was barely out of my teens when I was diagnosed so I don't know how I would have turned out without this illness.  I can only hope that I would have remained Agnostic and continued onto Atheism, but what would have been will always remain a mystery.  So does this mean I feel my MS happened for a reason?  That my life turned out better because of it?  NO!  The only good thing that has happened, that I do not believe would have occurred, is having my three little girls in my life.  That was the direct result of settling for someone because I was afraid to be alone or with my parents for the rest of my life.  I can also say that the home I have to this day is because I chose to marry the second husband and picked this house mostly for the love of my girls.  We can always reach and find a hidden reasons for everything, can't we?  And sometimes, to make my life a little easier, I prefer to think that because of my MS I have my wonderfully sweet kitties and they are the light of my life.  Deep inside, though, I know my MS happened because it just did.  It was random and I prefer that it hit me instead of afflicting one of my brothers or my parents.

I suppose the randomness of life is part of its charm, at least it is to me.  Once in a while, a butterfly may land on your nose or your finger just because it chose to do so.  Or a small child may smile at you or point a finger in your direction and break into giggles for absolutely no reason.  It's all a part of life and I take it as it comes.  There's no need to analyze everything that happens.  Sometimes, it just is what it is.  It's far from perfect but it's beautiful because each one of us has a story all our own.  I embrace life as it is with all its imperfections as we ourselves are quite imperfect.  But aren't we wonderful in spite of this?  Of course we are!  Imagine how annoying we would be if we were utterly perfect.  Ugh, I don't even want to think about it. Our charm lies in our imperfect personalities, quirks, habits and this is how I see life.  Far from perfect but wonderfully charming in all its splendor.


  1. That is lovely lucy hun and i totally agree with you x

    1. Thank you, Kylie. I'm glad you enjoyed it.☺